Stop Caretaking the Borderline Or Narcissist Book
Score: 3.5
From 3 Ratings

Stop Caretaking the Borderline Or Narcissist

  • Author : Margalis Fjelstad
  • Publisher : Rowman & Littlefield
  • Release Date : 2013
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
  • Pages : 219
  • ISBN 10 : 9781442220188

Stop Caretaking the Borderline Or Narcissist Excerpt :

People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders are master manipulators; Caretakers fall for them every time. This book helps Caretakers break the cycle and puts them on a new path of personal freedom, discovery, and self-awareness, through the use of real stories and practical suggestions from a seasoned therapist.

Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship Book

Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship

  • Author : Margalis Fjelstad
  • Publisher : Rowman & Littlefield Publishers
  • Release Date : 2019-10-16
  • Genre: Uncategoriezed
  • Pages : 254
  • ISBN 10 : 1538136651

Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship Excerpt :

Recovering from any broken relationship is difficult, but when one partner is a narcissist, extracting yourself from the union and healing from the emotional damage can be overwhelming. Using stories from her practice, Margalis Fjelstad helps "caretakers" heal from their broken relationships and navigate the rocky waters post-break up.

Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent Book

Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent

  • Author : Margalis Fjelstad
  • Publisher : Rowman & Littlefield
  • Release Date : 2020-11-03
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
  • Pages : 234
  • ISBN 10 : 9781538127643

Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent Excerpt :

Being partnered with a narcissist or borderline personality can be hard enough, but learning how to shield children from the fallout is paramount. Here, the authors show readers how to manage parenting when a narcissistic or borderline partner is part of the equation. Life in a narcissistic family system is at best challenging, and too often filled with chaos, isolation, emotional outbursts, and rigid controlling behaviors. It is too often devoid of peace and emotional safety. In the worst outcomes, children in these families grow up with low self-worth, issues with trust and belonging, and a lack of self-compassion. They are at significant risk of carrying the cycle forward and having poor adult relationships. This book offers a way to intervene and disrupt the cycle of negative outcomes for children. Written by two family therapists who bring a combined total of sixty years of clinical practice with individuals and families, the book pulls no punches, giving clear-headed advice, easy to follow actions to help children, and an abundance of teaching examples. Instead of the doom and gloom scenarios often presented about life with a narcissist or borderline, this book provides a much more positive outlook, and most importantly, it offers hope and a path to an entirely different outcome for the family members. Supported by current research in neuroscience, mindfulness and parenting information, the book focuses on teaching resilience and self-compassion to raise emotionally healthy children, even in a narcissistic family system. It starts by helping parents get a clear understanding of what they face with a narcissistic or borderline partner. There is no room here for denial, but there are also many options to explore. It explains how and why the narcissistic family system functions so poorly for raising healthy children, and pinpoints the deficits while providing information on how to intervene more effectively for the benefit of the children. Using their years of ex

When Hope is Not Enough  Second Edition Book

When Hope is Not Enough Second Edition

  • Author : Bon Dobbs
  • Publisher :
  • Release Date : 2015-08-06
  • Genre: Self-Help
  • Pages : 254
  • ISBN 10 : 9781329444096

When Hope is Not Enough Second Edition Excerpt :

Does someone you love have Borderline Personality Disorder? Are you in a relationship with a difficult person? Does this person rage at you for no reason at all? Is everything always YOUR fault? Do you feel lied to and manipulated? Do you believe that there is nowhere to turn? When Hope is Not Enough (WHINE) is here to help. WHINE provides a step-by-step plan for dealing with people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or BPD traits. WHINE can help rebuild your relationship and help you create a calmer life. Learn how to live with and love someone with BPD. The second edition brings 33% more material, skills and advanced tools. Readers of the first edition will find new approaches, detailed explanations and much more material.

Splitting Book
Score: 5
From 1 Ratings


  • Author : Bill Eddy
  • Publisher : New Harbinger Publications
  • Release Date : 2021-07-01
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
  • Pages : 304
  • ISBN 10 : 9781684036134

Splitting Excerpt :

This highly anticipated second edition of Splitting includes new chapters on abuse, alienation, and false allegations; as well as information about the four types of domestic violence, protective orders, and child custody disputes. Are you divorcing someone who’s making the process as difficult as possible? Are they sending you nasty emails, falsifying the truth, putting your children in the middle, abusing you, or abusing the system? Are they “persuasive blamers,” manipulating and fooling court personnel to get them on their side? If so, you need this book. For more than ten years, Splitting has served as the ultimate guide for people divorcing a high conflict person, one who often has borderline or narcissistic (or even antisocial) personality disorder. Among other things, it has saved readers thousands of dollars, helped them keep custody of their children, and effectively guided them through a difficult legal and emotional process. Written by a family law attorney and therapist, and the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and/or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). This second edition includes new information about antisocial personalities; expanded information about domestic violence, child abuse, alienation, and false allegations; how to approach protective orders and deal with child custody disputes; and a new chapter on how to successfully present your case to decision makers. Turn to this guide to help you: Predict what your spouse may do or say in court Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking Choose a lawyer who understands your case Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you If you need help navigating a high-conflict divorce from a manipulative spouse, this book includes all of the critical inform

The Narcissistic   Borderline Couple Book

The Narcissistic Borderline Couple

  • Author : Joan Lachkar
  • Publisher : Routledge
  • Release Date : 2004-06-01
  • Genre: Psychology
  • Pages : 256
  • ISBN 10 : 9781135952167

The Narcissistic Borderline Couple Excerpt :

In this second edition of her groundbreaking book, Dr. Joan Lachkar addresses the ever-changing faces and phases of narcissism within the context of marital therapy and discusses the new developments in the treatment of marital conflict. Drawing from many different theoretical frameworks, mainly self-psychology (Kohut) and object relations (Klein), the works of D.W, Winnicott, and Kernberg are expanded to further explain why couples stay in painful, conflictual, never-ending relationships (traumatic bonding). The new chapters, case illustrations, and updated treatment sequences are invaluable to both beginning and experienced clinicians. The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple is an essential text for every marital therapist, offering an improved understanding of marital pathology within the framework of our changing world.

Understanding the Borderline Mother Book
Score: 4.5
From 7 Ratings

Understanding the Borderline Mother

  • Author : Christine Ann Lawson
  • Publisher : Rowman & Littlefield
  • Release Date : 2002
  • Genre: Psychology
  • Pages : 330
  • ISBN 10 : 9780765703316

Understanding the Borderline Mother Excerpt :

The first love in our lives is our mother. Recognizing her face, her voice, the meaning of her moods, and her facial expressions is crucial to survival. Dr. Christine Ann Lawson vividly describes how mothers who suffer from borderline personality disorder produce children who may flounder in life even as adults, futilely struggling to reach the safety of a parental harbor, unable to recognize that their borderline parent lacks a pier, or even a discernible shore. Four character profiles describe different symptom clusters that include the waif mother, the hermit mother, the queen mother, and the witch. Children of borderlines are at risk for developing this complex and devastating personality disorder themselves. Dr. Lawson's recommendations for prevention include empathic understanding of the borderline mother and early intervention with her children to ground them in reality and counteract the often dangerous effects of living with a "make-believe" mother. Some readers may recognize their mothers as well as themselves in this book. They will also find specific suggestions for creating healthier relationships. Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim. A Jason Aronson Book

The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder Book

The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder

  • Author : Randi Kreger
  • Publisher : Simon and Schuster
  • Release Date : 2009-06-03
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
  • Pages : 304
  • ISBN 10 : 9781592857838

The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder Excerpt :

Gentle counsel and realistic advice for families contending with one of today's most misunderstood forms of mental illness. "Randi Kreger has done it again! With her new book, she continues to make the dynamics of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) readily accessible to those of us who love, live with and treat people who suffer from this complex condition." Blaise Aguirre, MD, Medical Director, Adolescent Dialectical Behavior Therapy Residential Program, McLean Hospital"Kreger's communication techniques, grounded in the latest research, provide family members with the essential ability to regain a genuine, meaningful relationship with their loved one with Borderline Personality Disorder." Debra Resnick, Psy.D., President, Psychological Services and Human Development Center"This book offers hope for those who think their situation has none." Rachel Reiland, author of Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality DisorderFor family members of people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), home life is routinely unpredictable and frequently unbearable. Extreme mood swings, impulsive behaviors, unfair blaming and criticism, and suicidal tendencies common conduct among those who suffer from the disorder leave family members feeling confused, hurt, and helpless.In Stop Walking on Eggshells, Randi Kreger's pioneering first book which sold more than 340,000 copies, she and co-author Paul T. Mason outlined the fundamental differences in the way that people with BPD relate to the world. Now, with The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder, Kreger takes readers to the next level by offering them five straightforward tools to organize their thinking, learn specific skills, and focus on what they need to do to get off the emotional rollercoaster:Take care of yourselfUncover what keeps you feeling stuckCommunicate to be heardSet limits with loveReinforce the right behaviorsTogether the steps provide a clear-cut system designed to help frie

The White Knight Syndrome  Rescuing Yourself from Your Need to Rescue Others Book

The White Knight Syndrome Rescuing Yourself from Your Need to Rescue Others

  • Author : Mary C. Lamia
  • Publisher : Echo Point Books & Media, LLC
  • Release Date : 2021-08-01
  • Genre: Self-Help
  • Pages : null
  • ISBN 10 : 978186723xxxx

The White Knight Syndrome Rescuing Yourself from Your Need to Rescue Others Excerpt :

Rescuing others, losing yourself. Are you a white knight? Are you attracted to needy, damaged, or helpless people? Do you feel like your love can heal your partner? Are you overly involved in your partner's problems? Are you hungry for constant reassurance in relationships? Do you make excuses for your partner? Do you try to "save" people from themselves? In legends and fairytales, the white knight rescues the damsel in distress, falls in love, and saves the day. Real-life white knights are men and women who enter into romantic relationships with damaged and vulnerable partners, hoping that love will transform their partner's behavior or life-a relationship pattern that seldom leads to a storybook ending. If this dynamic sounds familiar to you, you may be a white knight; hoping to receive admiration, validation, or love from your partners, but managing only to cheat yourself out of emotionally healthy relationships. It's time to come to your own rescue, and this book can help. With well-written analysis, engaging insight, and salient case studies, The White Knight Syndrome is a much-needed and well-executed guide to understanding and resolving the white knight syndrome in yourself.

Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder Book
Score: 5
From 1 Ratings

Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

  • Author : Shari Y. Manning
  • Publisher : Guilford Press
  • Release Date : 2011-08-18
  • Genre: Psychology
  • Pages : 253
  • ISBN 10 : 1606234862

Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder Excerpt :

People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be intensely caring, warm, smart, and funny—but their behavior often drives away those closest to them. If you're struggling in a tumultuous relationship with someone with BPD, this is the book for you. Dr. Shari Manning helps you understand why your spouse, family member, or friend has such out-of-control emotions—and how to change the way you can respond. Learn to use simple yet powerful strategies that can defuse crises, establish better boundaries, and radically transform your relationship. Empathic, hopeful, and science based, this is the first book for family and friends grounded in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), the most effective treatment for BPD.

The Narcissist s Playbook Book

The Narcissist s Playbook

  • Author : Dana Morningstar
  • Publisher : Morningstar Media
  • Release Date : 2019-05-15
  • Genre: Self-Help
  • Pages : 324
  • ISBN 10 : 978186723xxxx

The Narcissist s Playbook Excerpt :

Do you have a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath in your life, or think that you might? Do you continually feel anxious around someone in your life, but can’t pinpoint why? Do conversations seem to go off track, leaving you feeling knocked off balance and confused? Does it feel like they are making your life a living hell, but they insist that you are too sensitive, crazy, or to blame? Perhaps you know you are being manipulated or abused, but don’t know how to make it stop. The Narcissist’s Playbook can help. Dana Morningstar is a domestic violence advocate, author, podcaster, YouTuber, speaker, and group leader. She writes from personal as well as professional experience in the field of domestic violence awareness, narcissistic abuse, and advocacy. Some of the topics covered in The Narcissist’s Playbook are: -What manipulation is and isn’t. -How to spot manipulative behaviors early (and why most people struggle with this). -How and why people get caught up with manipulators, and why they have a hard time breaking free. -How to identify the emotional “hook” that is keeping you stuck in manipulation and what you can do about it. - How to effectively disable manipulation as it is happening. - How to identify the common personality traits that are frequently exploited by manipulators. You can take back your life. The Narcissist’s Playbook tells you how.

The Narcissist in Your Life Book

The Narcissist in Your Life

  • Author : Julie L. Hall
  • Publisher : Da Capo Lifelong Books
  • Release Date : 2019-12-03
  • Genre: Psychology
  • Pages : 320
  • ISBN 10 : 9780738285788

The Narcissist in Your Life Excerpt :

A highly illuminating examination of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and its insidiously traumatic impact on family members and partners. Packed with insight, compassion, and practical strategies for recovery, this is a must-read for survivors and clinicians alike. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) has a profoundly dehumanizing effect on those subject to its distortions, manipulations, and rage. The Narcissist in Your Life illuminates the emotionally annihilating experience of narcissistic abuse in families and relationships, acknowledges the complex emotional and physical trauma that results, and assists survivors with compassionate, practical advice on the path of recovery. Whether you are just learning about NPD, managing a narcissistic parent or other family member, leaving a narcissistic relationship, or struggling with complex PTSD, you will find life-changing answers to these common questions: What are the different forms of NPD? Is my partner a narcissist? Why do I keep attracting narcissistic personalities? How can I help my kids? What happens in a narcissistic family? Why did my other parent go along with the abuse? Why am I alienated from my siblings? Why is it so hard to believe in myself and my future? What is complex PTSD and do I have it? What are the health problems associated with narcissistic abuse? Journalist, survivor, and NPD trauma coach Julie L. Hall provides a comprehensive, up-to-date, affirming, and accessible guide that will not only help you understand narcissistic abuse trauma, but will help you overcome trauma cycles and move forward with healing.

Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder Book
Score: 3.5
From 3 Ratings

Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder

  • Author : Valerie Porr, M.A.
  • Publisher : Oxford University Press
  • Release Date : 2010-07-30
  • Genre: Psychology
  • Pages : 424
  • ISBN 10 : 0199752508

Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder Excerpt :

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is characterized by unstable moods, negative self-image, dangerous impulsivity, and tumultuous relationships. Many people with BPD excel in academics and careers while revealing erratic, self-destructive, and sometimes violent behavior only to those with whom they are intimate. Others have trouble simply holding down a job or staying in school. Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder is a compassionate and informative guide to understanding this profoundly unsettling--and widely misunderstood--mental illness, believed to affect approximately 6% of the general population. Rather than viewing people with BPD as manipulative opponents in a bitter struggle, or pitying them as emotional invalids, Valerie Porr cites cutting-edge science to show that BPD is a true neurobiological disorder and not, as many come to believe, a character flaw or the result of bad parenting. Porr then clearly and accessibly explains what BPD is, which therapies have proven effective, and how to rise above the weighty stigma associated with the disorder. Offering families and loved ones supportive guidance that both acknowledges the difficulties they face and shows how they can be overcome, Porr teaches empirically-supported and effective coping behaviors and interpersonal skills, such as new ways of talking about emotions, how to be aware of nonverbal communication, and validating difficult experiences. These skills are derived from Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Mentalization-based Therapy, two evidence-based treatments that have proven highly successful in reducing family conflict while increasing trust. Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder is an empowering and hopeful resource for those who wish to gain better understanding of the BPD experience--and to make use of these insights in day-to-day family interactions. Winner of the ABCT Self Help Book Seal of Merit Award 2011

Do You Love to Be Needed  or Need to Be Loved  Book

Do You Love to Be Needed or Need to Be Loved

  • Author : Shari Schreiber
  • Publisher : Outskirts Press
  • Release Date : 2018-09-27
  • Genre: Self-Help
  • Pages : 217
  • ISBN 10 : 9781478791027

Do You Love to Be Needed or Need to Be Loved Excerpt :

Shari Schreiber learned about healing people by having to surmount her own painful life experiences. Tenacious about her pursuit of wholeness and wellness, she invented tools in her mid-twenties to help her grow beyond mere survival and learn to thrive. She imparted these tools and methods to her clients for eighteen of the twenty-five years she was passionately dedicated to helping others repair themselves. Returning to school at forty-one, she’d hoped to legitimize the talents she’d always had, but found that experience lacking. Ms. Schreiber has not worked as a state-licensed professional, because in her view, “psychotherapy” or mind work never seemed to resolve or remedy human pain. Her own approach was extremely unconventional, unique and effective in contrast to other forms of intervention, even within the realm of addiction recovery. Having retired from her wellness practice in late 2017, she hopes to publish many more books that might help you gain clarity, wholeness, contentment, inner peace and joy.

Stop Walking on Eggshells Book

Stop Walking on Eggshells

  • Author : Paul T. Mason
  • Publisher :
  • Release Date : 2009-09-17
  • Genre: Psychology
  • Pages : 289
  • ISBN 10 : 9781458724410

Stop Walking on Eggshells Excerpt :

People with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) challenge those close to them with their often bewildering mood shifts and unpredictable behavior. For those people who have relationships with persons with BPD, whether they be relatives, friends, spouses, parents, or children, this book should prove a godsend. It delineates the ways in which borderline individuals' (BPs) behavior and communications frustrate and perplex those around them but goes further in articulating specific strategies that those close to the person with Borderline Personality Disorder (non-BPs, as they are termed in this book) can effectively cope with these kinds of behaviors. ----Larry J. Siever, M.D.